Men like to masturbate to porn, but ask a woman and she will at the
least not understand why and in most cases a woman would be disgusted by it.
But most of us guys love it. Personally I don’t really like hard-core stuff. I
somehow do not want to see a man screwing a woman who is desperately trying to
make you believe that she is loving it. For me the fun part of the whole deal
ends once the clothes are off and penetration takes place. Also what is the fun
in seeing the same action repeated over and over till the man ejaculates and
the woman pretends to have an orgasm. If at all I would like to see a woman do
a striptease or two women make out. Striptease is something that is natural to
both men seeing it and women doing it. Men are designed to be attracted by the
visuals of women and parts of women. However a bit of what we get excited by also
depends on our cultural and social conditioning. In some cultures where a woman
is not supposed to show her face or some other part of her, a man could easily
get excited by just looking at her face, her ankle, her neck or whatever he is
not conditioned to see. Considering, the modern woman is liberated and cannot
be pressed to abide by any sexual rules; she wears tight clothes showing her
shape, she shows everything and does everything that will make men respond. She
may not want to direct it towards every man out there, but has no option. In
the process men are becoming more and more visually desensitized. You have seen
nearly everything the only thing left that will excite are breasts and vagina.
If women decided to walk around in the nude, we would need to sexually redesign
men’s responses from scratch.
Women are designed to show off, all they have. It is a simple equation
of action and reaction. The woman is supposed to create exciting visuals and
the man is supposed to react to them and this is what makes pornographic material
so popular with men. Just imagine if men stopped getting excited by visuals
created by women, it would mark the end of the human race. We may think we are
a highly evolved race, but the fact is the primal instinct to procreate is as
old as the human race itself and will probably never change. Men are supposed
to get sexually excited by the visuals of a firm round breast, but if the
breast was square, men would have been wired to respond to that. We are excited
by the body shape of a woman only because we are programmed to do so. In
different parts of the world and different cultures the parameters that define
beauty are different depending upon the shape women have taken because of the
weather, diet and other factors. Any man who pretends not to look at women very
openly is simply well trained to disguise his sexual response to the presence
of women. I don’ think there would be a man alive or dead who was not excited
by the body or presence of a woman.
Coming back to my topic, why we men like to watch porn and most women
don’t is because the way we are “wired”. Women are programmed to sexually
respond to touch and smell more than visual inputs. So showing a woman your
penis cannot generate the same response as a woman taking off her clothes. Men are
“wired” for visual response. Give a man some erotic stuff to see and allow him
to stimulate the top one inch of his penis and he will be quite satisfied. Ask
a woman to play with herself while looking at the most handsome of men and she
would rarely get excited. Women need to be held, massaged, touched all over and
gently caressed to respond. That is why dancing, dinners, foreplay, hand
holding, riding a motorcycle with her body squeezed against yours are very
sexually exciting things for a woman. Women are also experts at not showing
what they enjoy sexually.
Sometimes women can respond to visual stimuli, but she will not look
for instant gratification by masturbating. This is because a woman needs to
receive semen and sperm as a final outcome of any sexual act. This is not to
say that women do not masturbate at all. Women masturbate, but more because of
sensitivity, irritation or itching of the sexual organs. Even when a woman
masturbates she will involve her whole body in the act and not just centre on
her vagina and clitoris. Unlike men women can carry their sexual excitement for
long periods of time, waiting to find the right mate. When a woman is sexually
excited, you can make it out by what she wears and the way she behaves. She
will flaunt her body more; she will wear bright colors especially
red to attract the attention of a potential mate. She will go to places where there
is possibility of finding the right man. But she will remain passively active,
waiting for men to make the move so she can choose the one she wants to allow
to please her.
When you are a young boy you may respond to all women type stimuli, but
as a man matures he responds more and more to visual stimulus. That is why, we
want to go to dance bars, see women in bikinis, lingerie or in the nude. A
woman can excite you simply by showing cleavage, by wearing a short skirt or
hot pants, or simply wearing something which flaunts her body. That is why
women do makeup but men don’t. To be a little politically in-correct, most
women are advertising their wares as part of the scheme of things, and men are
standing in queue for their turn. However, unlike advertising for products, in
this case a woman will decide who is going to get her stuff. So she is
continuously sending the sexual message out there by what she wears, the way
she talks, looks, walks and behaves. Men are constantly window shopping, but in
this case it is not a wad of money that will get him the goods, the woman will
take her time and pick the man she thinks is right for her. Most men think that
they have seduced a woman, when they get into bed with her, whereas the fact
invariably is that they have been seduced into thinking that they have
successfully won the game.
So the bottom line is that if you like to watch pornographic material
it is only because you are programmed to do so. It is not your fault, or
anything to be ashamed about. This however, does not make masturbating to porn,
all right. Masturbation can have very damaging consequences. See my post “My
experience with sexual self-abuse” and “How to stop a masturbation addiction” in
this blog for more.
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