What women want?

In this post I am taking a very clinical look at behavior, a sort of outsiders view to female behavior. Women are always looking for men who cannot just satisfy them physically but, emotionally as well. They need much more than the six inches men usually want to offer. For a woman sex is not and cannot be a 20 minute fix, like it is for most men. For women sexual foreplay can begin just talking to a man with the right voice, attitude, and sense of humor. Partner (mate) selection is without fail a psycho-emotional process for women. Women take their time selecting the right man and once he is found they will not let go easily, they will use every trick in the book to get him. This is quite unlike men; a man given the opportunity will pounce on just about any woman (who lets him). He may think and often will think that he seduced her, but in most cases the truth is quite the opposite. It is always the woman who lets him seduce her. Under the same set of circumstances involving a man, a woman will act in one of two ways, I like what I see and will let him approach or I don’t like what I see so god help the man. My advice to my men friends is “learn to look for these signals and you will do great with women”. Also if you want to succeed with women, show them what they want to see, in behavior, words and superiority to other men in every possible way.

Often women go for a man who is already with another woman. This is a sort of subliminal short listing process for a woman. She may evaluate how he treats the other woman and may subconsciously like what she sees. I do not think any woman knows that she is doing all this complicated rating, but all women have the same set of basic rules and will use the work put in by another woman whenever possible. All this may not happen consciously but a lot of it happens. Women often compare notes about the man they are with, unwittingly passing on information which may appeal to a friend. To make things worse they want their friend, especially the best friend to meet the man in their life. This is mostly done for a second opinion, a sort of approval process. I don’t think any woman realizes that her best friend could be a threat to her love life. So, guys you need to succeed with the friends too to be “approved”.

One may call it evaluation of the X factor that the man has to go through. Behind all this is the primitive sexual instinct of a woman, which is designed to lead her to the right man for the purposes of procreation, and is common to all warm blooded mammals. Therefore, a man’s natural smell, his body shape, his face, attitude, social status, all play a big role in the process. Then there are the extensions of sexual power. The car, the house, the job, the boat, the personal jet and other stuff which in a way are all extensions and outward displays of a man’s sexual power. This all shows to the woman that the man will not only help her procreate but will be a good provider. Because this all happens instinctively, even if a woman knows that a relationship cannot go far, the process of “mate” selection remains the same. This is why young women fall for the married older guy. Another way to look at it is that a lot more analysis and evaluation goes into selecting a “mate” by a woman, even if the relationship is only sexual and nothing more, and the woman knows it.