sex N yoga: Female Deer exercise – Sexual Qigong for women V2

Female Deer exercise is a simple but very beneficial exercise. It helps increase DHEA and Oxytocin levels, which in turn help improve fertility, regulate mood swings, and regulate levels of Estrogen, Progesterone and Testosterone in the body. Correct DHEA levels in the body will help you deal with stress and depression and will keep you more energetic and sexually more active. It will further help you achieve orgasm more easily and even increase fertility. Increase in Oxytocin levels help you relax and increase sexual desire. Breasts are important, if not the most important part of a woman’s sexual play. Stimulation of the breasts is more important for women during intercourse than even the stimulation of the clitoris and vaginal penetration and stimulation. Most women can have an orgasm simply by proper manipulation of the breasts. Thus we focus on the breasts in Female Deer whereas the Male Deer is performed with the massage of the penis and the lower abdomen.

How to perform the Female Deer exercise

The exercise should ideally be performed in the morning before eating anything. Find a well-ventilated private space; sit naked on the floor on a mat or the bed with a firm mattress. Place your left heel between the anus and the vaginal opening. If you find this difficult place the heel anywhere touching your body, preferably below the Clitoris as close to or behind the vagina. Even if this is difficult use a small ball like a tennis ball to press near the vagina with the heel of the left foot. Place the right foot above the left leg between the thigh and calf muscle with the heel touching the pubis. If you find this difficult simply place the right leg in front, on the floor or mat. If you get the position of both heels touching the body, try to push the heels back, to exert a slight pressure. The left heel presses the perineum or the vagina while the right heel presses the pubis above the clitoris.

Close your eyes and take deep breaths - at least 25 times or up to 5 minutes. Now, rub your hands to warm them. Place both hands on your breasts, left hand on the left breast and right on the right breast. Now gently massage in circular motion, going inside up and outside down. You may even do it the other way around, going inside down and outside up. However the best would be doing one day in one direction and the other day in the other direction. Further, depending on your breast size and sensitivity do it the way that feels most comfortable. Remember however, that you are skimming the skin and not holding the breast while doing the exercise. Breathe in going up and breathe out going down. Continue doing this 81 times without stopping. Do it slowly with eyes closed enjoying every stroke. Continue longer if you wish to. At the end you will feel relaxed and more energetic. Smaller breasts are usually more sensitive, so you may need a little more firmness if you are a larger size. You need to find the correct pressure so the massage is pleasurable.

Finally clench your hands around your thumb and place them in your lap. Pull the perineum muscle and hold as long as you comfortably can. Do this once. This is not the same as the Kegel (pelvic floor exercise) exercise. Here we are trying to isolate the muscle that would stop urine mid-stream, excluding the vaginal and anal muscles. You may try this while urinating to isolate the muscle(s). You will find more details in my post “How to isolate the Perineum muscles”.

You need to make the Female Deer a part of your life and do it regularly. Although the Female Deer Exercise is a solo exercise and you need to massage your breasts on your own, you may find it pleasurable and relaxing to let a willing partner, male or female, do the massage for you occasionally. This is not really a part of the Female Deer or Sexual Qigong practice. You need to look at it as a prolonged relaxing massage done as and when you can. For this breast massage use natural edible grade oil, and extend the sessions for long periods of time, the goal being to achieve orgasm or extreme relaxation almost to the level of intoxication thru massage of the breasts alone. The oils I use are Almond oil or Coconut oil. I have not yet tried Sesame seed Oil or Olive oil. I would advise against using mustard oil because it may give you an uncomfortable burning sensation. The orgasm if reached should be thru massage of the breasts alone. The idea here is not to use the massage as foreplay, and to have enough control not to use clitoral or vaginal stimulation of any kind. The partner may massage the breasts in both directions and occasionally pinch the nipples if you find it comfortable. Be imaginative and try using different ways of stimulation and find what works best for you. It is important to let the partner know what feels good. Good communication is an important part of achieving the results. Your partner must understand that the massage is for your pleasure and benefit, not an opportunity to play with your breasts. Start the massage in a sitting position with the partner behind you. Once you are reasonably relaxed you can continue the massage lying down with the partner massaging you from the sides or above your head or sitting across your waist. A male partner will inevitable get aroused but make sure not to end up making love.

A combined video demo of the MALE and FEMALE Deer exercise is available at: